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But what if online dating makes it too easy to meet someone new?
What if it raises the bar for a good relationship too high?
on the East Coast and spending a few years bouncing around, Jacob moved back to his native Oregon, settling in Portland.
Almost immediately, he was surprised by the difficulty he had meeting women.
Past girlfriends had complained about his lifestyle, which emphasized watching sports and going to concerts and bars.
He’d been called lazy, aimless, and irresponsible with money.
It didn’t seem like there was going to be much of a mourning period, where you stare at your wall thinking you’re destined to be alone and all that.
Around this time, he signed up for two online dating sites: Match.com, a paid site, because he’d seen the TV ads; and Plenty of Fish, a free site he’d heard about around town. At first I just thought it was some kind of weird lucky streak.” After six weeks, Jacob met a 22-year-old named Rachel, whose youth and good looks he says reinvigorated him. (Both names have been changed for anonymity.) Rachel didn’t mind Jacob’s sports addiction, and enjoyed going to concerts with him. She was from a blue-collar military background; he came from doctors.But most of the online-dating-company executives I interviewed while writing my new book, Love in the Time of Algorithms, agreed with what research appears to suggest: the rise of online dating will mean an overall decrease in commitment.“The future will see better relationships but more divorce,” predicts Dan Winchester, the founder of a free dating site based in the U. “The older you get as a man, the more experienced you get.Although a younger girlfriend bought him some time, biologically speaking, it also alienated him from his friends, who could understand the physical attraction but couldn’t really relate to Rachel.In the past, Jacob had always been the kind of guy who didn’t break up well. His desire to be with someone, to not have to go looking again, had always trumped whatever doubts he’d had about the person he was with. “I feel like I underwent a fairly radical change thanks to online dating,” Jacob says.